4 Things I did to Kick My Shopping Addiction

UPDATE: I’m still on the wagon. Delivered from the need for excess.    Well, 2015 is over and so is my writing sabbatical. Last year my focus was on building ZOI Wholeness, a not-for-profit personal development firm, and to discipline myself to focus more on the needs of others.  My goal for last year was […]

He Said, She Said

In the past 30 days, I’ve been to Brazil, Spain, and Switzerland. That’s Portuguese, Spanish, and German language in my ears. Trying to navigate my way through the day with limited understanding of these languages is sometimes exhausting and quite frustrating.  When you are trying to discuss something with someone whose native language is different […]

4 Reasons Not to Cut Off Your Relationships

Learning to accept (not just tolerate) other people is a huge part of our journey to love. We have a tendency to feel like everyone (or most people) should think like us, behave like us, BE like we are. If you are a fast-paced, goal-oriented driver it takes an effort to build relationships with slower-paced, […]

Judge Other People If You Want

  Bernie Madoff swindled people in a Ponzi scheme. YOU WOULD NEVER DO THAT! But you are still intentionally dodging the person whom you owe $100.  A young man slapped his mother in the face. YOU WOULD NEVER DO THAT! But you will slap your daughter’s mother in the face. Your girlfriend got back with […]

Surround Yourself With the Right People

Who is on your team? If you are saying to yourself “What team?” then I can suppose that you have not formed a team of people around you to help you build a successful life.  You cannot go it alone.  A standard philosophy in personal development is that you must have like-minded people around you that challenge […]

The Powerless Nature "I’m Sorry"

They say words have power… Words have power.  You can get metaphysical, spiritual, or just commonsensical with it. When you tell yourself you will do something, you usually do it.  When you say, “I think I’m getting sick” you usually end up sneezing within the hour.  Words carry the ability to shape your world. We let […]

Get Some Rose Colored Glasses

Constant criticizers make my eyes water. Overly-sensitive, insecure backbiters make my stomach turn. Liars make my ears bleed. Manipulators make my blood boil. Fakers make my head hurt. My eyes, stomach, ears, blood and head are all physically affected by the aforementioned persons. However, my heart is steadfast in love for them.  How can that […]

A Letter to My Closet – I’m Sorry I Made You Fat

photo credit: Kamryn Adams (2015) Dear Closet, I love you and I’m sorry.  Over the years I’ve watched your personal development grow and watched you become more valuable in stature. From Nine west to Coach to Louis Vuitton, Prada and Chanel you have been built into a good quality collection that should remain for many […]

Seeing is Believing, Right?

Is this an old woman? Or a Young Woman?What you see is a reflection of your mindset. Seeing in believing? Certainly.  But is what we believe true? We can only interpret what we see by what we believe to be true.We see with our eyes. However, we interpret what we see with our brains.  The eye […]

A Picture Perfect Relationship

In the picture to the left you know that there is a glass. The determination of whether it is half-full or half-empty depends on your mindset. The liquid in the glass is debatable, as well. Water? Vodka? Mineral oil? Is that glass new or used? How long has the glass been sitting on the table? […]

Balance Schmalance!

It is no surprise that many of my fellow life coaches and counselors disagree with my philosophy on balance.  After all many coaches and counselors make a living with clients who seek “balance” in their lives. In my personal opinion AND EXPERIENCE I believe that the notion of life balance sets women up for failure […]

Kicking My "But"

Life Coach, Kamryn Adams When I was a little girl there was a Saturday morning cartoon called “School House Rock” from which I learned about conjunctions: “and”, “or” and the ubiquitous “BUT”.  Conjunctions link two thoughts together to give us a full picture of the scenario.  How we feel about ourselves can be directly linked to […]

Dancing in the Dark

The Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater’s Demetia Hopkins Credit: Paul Kolnik If you live, work or ever visited New York City chances are you have been through the Lincoln tunnel.  The Lincoln tunnel is one-and-a-half miles long. It connects New Jersey to Midtown Manhattan. There is a point in that tunnel where you are too […]

Never Safe, Not Sorry

When we speak of life’s “ups and downs” I like to think of them in this context: There are moments when we are full of faith and courage. Then there are moments when we are fearful and uncertain. Unless you learn to face your fears (and essentially ignore them) you will play it safe over […]