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Bah Humbug! Still Mad at God?


“…but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him.” – John 9:3

Tis the season to be jolly!  Yeah, that sounds good but this has been a year of loss and pain for a lot of people. So while many of us bellow from the pews,  “Oh come let us adore Him” some of you may be feeling just the opposite. So much has happened to you this year that you aren’t really sure if the Baby Jesus made any difference in the world at all.  It’s hard for you to celebrate because you are in too much pain. Maybe guilt keeps you from enjoying the holiday because you want to hold on to the pain.  The twin terrors,  bitterness and  holiday blues have a hold on you and the last thing you feel is that God loves you so much He sent His son.  Bah freaking Humbug!

Here’s the bad news – reading this article may not put you in the holiday spirit. Here’s the good news – whether you feel like God loves you or not, HE DOES! Christmas is the time that we celebrate God’s love for us. I promise that one holiday season, joy will sneak up on you and you’ll be fa la la la la without even realizing that you’ve healed.  (Eye rolling is permitted here.)

depressed-teen-boyWe spend a lot of time trying to figure out why things happen.  In John 9,  Jesus and disciples came upon a blind man. The disciples assumed that this man was blind because of something that his parents or he had done wrong. Jesus corrected them saying, “Neither this man nor his parents sinned, but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him.”  

Bad things happen to good people all that time.  And sometimes good things happen to bad people, which really annoys me.   In Matthew 5:45 Jesus says, “He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain the the righteous and the unrighteous.” The circumstances of your life are not because you are a bad person. The pain you feel is certainly not because God doesn’t love you. He does. Nothing shows God’s love for you more than the birth of His son, Jesus Christ.

When your children are angry with you because they believe you have treated them unfairly do you stop loving them?  No! You know that they have limited ability to understand your decision. They lack the maturity and wisdom to know that you are doing something that has bigger meaning.  I know it is hard for you to accept right now.  I had a few Christmases where I did not get out of bed.  I simply raised my hands  with tears in my eyes and said, “Jesus, I know you and I know God is real, but right now, I can’t celebrate you. In fact, I’m mad at you. So work with me on this one, will ya?”

You want some advice? Of course you don’t but I’m going to give it to you anyway. Just keep it real with God this holiday season. Tell him exactly how you feel.  I’m not going to offer you “5 Ways”  or “3 Steps” on this thing.  This year may have delivered a devastating blow to you and your faith. There is no amount of egg nog, with or without rum, that is going to put you in the holiday spirit. But, you can rest assured of this one thing: God loved you so much that he gave his only son so that you can be mad, sad, or bitter this holiday season and still be loved.


For more on surviving the valleys of life read, “Can You Stand To Be Blessed?” by Bishop TD Jakes.






Kamryn Adams is a certified coach, award-winning author, and Christian Lifestyle Personality.  For more visit KamrynAdams.com

1 thought on “Bah Humbug! Still Mad at God?”

  1. Great article, thank you. I’ve read a few articles tagged Christmas or holiday blues which end up with the same cliched and, for many, unattainable, message “Spend Christmas with all your loved ones!” But some don’t have loved ones. The truly lonely don’t. People are so insular at Christmas that they forget that.

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