5 Steps on Purpose

Hey! Take a look at your life. Are you where you want to be? Do you think that you’re doing what God has created you to do? If not here are just a few  principles that can help propel you toward a more satisfying life. First, get authentic.  Be real about your feelings of inadequacy. […]

Ain’t Too Proud

(l to r) Ephraim Sykes (David Ruffin), Jeremy Pope (Eddie Kendricks), James Harkness (Paul Williams), Jared Joseph (Melvin Franklin), and Derrick Baskin (Otis Williams) in the world premiere of Ain’t Too Proud—The Life and Times of The Temptations at Berkeley Repertory Theatre. Photo by Carole Litwin/Berkeley Repertory Theatre On a brisk Tuesday night in New York City, […]

Too Much Orpah to be Oprah

And again they wept together, and Orpah kissed her mother-in-law good-bye. But Ruth clung tightly to Naomi. – Ruth 1:14 A big part of knowing who you are is know who you ARE NOT. Recently on Honey and Onion we talked about knowing your limitations. As always, I go to the Bible for guidance and […]

7 Steps to Start Healing

There is a difference between being “cracked” and broken to pieces. A cracked vase can still hold a candle and shine light. A vase that is broken to pieces needs to either be fixed or thrown away. The more broken pieces the less useful the vase becomes.  We are empty vases that are filled with the […]

How Do I Do Lent?

Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the Christian Lenten season. This is the day that we begin to prepare our hearts for the celebration of Easter Sunday. Lent begins on Ash Wednesday and ends on Good Friday. Lent is 40 days of sacrifice modeled after the 40 days that Jesus spent in the desert […]

Fear Gets A Bad Wrap

Fearless people scare me because fearlessness often leads to foolish behavior. The KJV of the Bible translates 2 Timothy 1:7 as “God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” People quote it all the time and some folks say there is never a […]

What I learned from Alita: Battle Angel

I really enjoy a good story. Of course, living a Shine TYC life means I see everything through the lens of my faith — a Christian World view doesn’t idolize or demonize anything in God’s creation but understands there is a way to use it all for God’s glory. So, that brings me to my […]

Love Never Fails. Relationships Do.

1 Corinthians 13 is one of the most quoted love poems ever. Most importantly it reminds us that love never fails. I know. I know. Right now you are thinking about that person you loved dearly and it all fell apart. You’re thinking about the pain of your failed marriage. Love never fails. However, relationships […]

Friend of a Friend

While some of us sing, “What a friend we have in Jesus” others may be thinking, “Well I don’t really know Jesus like that, but my friend does.” Is Jesus your friend? Or is He a friend of a friend? I briefly met Michael Jordan back in the day. I knew a lot about him […]

Don’t Blame Oscar

While most of my twitter timeline is outraged about the Oscar Noms, there were a few good opposing arguments that I had to agree with. Awards are based on merit and performance. That’s true. But when a merit (or penal) system is so glaringly disproportionate, the system is clearly broken. Consequently, we need to take a look at our intuitive human biases on an individual level to make systemic change.

You’ve Got Issues

For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and send rain on the jut and the unjust alike. – Matthew 5:45 NLT Let’s get one thing straight. You are going to have problems and likely more than one in a lifetime. God never promised anyone a life without problems. In fact, […]

Bird Box: You Can’t Handle the Truth

  I tried , but there are tiny spoilers in here so proceed at your own volition. It’s been a few days since I’ve seen Bird Box on Netflix. I’ll admit that for two days my mind was reeling with possibilities.  What is Bird Box about? Parenting. social media, racism, death and grief, bad decisions, […]

Follow the Little Voice, Not the Loud One

“Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”  – Galatians 1:10 Obviously! Paul is pretty direct in his message to those foolish Galatians. His goal is to do the will of God, regardless of what people think. That […]

Motherhood with Wisdom, Power, and Faith

In the current environment I’m fighting like Rizpah to keep the scavengers from tearing away at my sons– their dignity, honor, self-esteem, self-image, and life itself. I have to watch police, politicians, teachers, coaches, store clerks, and strangers who might consider skittles to be dangerous. Every night I fall into bed, I thank God that my sons are alive and pray they live another day.  It’s a real, not at all irrational, fear of this Black mother.  

Just Like My Father

One of my favorite tactics when my mother asks me to come home and do something is to quote the Bible.  “A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his own family.”  That’s Matthew 13:57 (NLT).  It basically reinforces the old adage that familiarity breeds contempt.  Regardless of the books and […]

Do Not Give Up On God

  In a time when our self-image and self-worth are challenged daily by social media highlight reels of people who seem to lead perfect, adventurous, well-maintained, lives with exceptional children and extraordinary marriages, it’s easy to focus on what’s wrong with our lives. Psalm 139 reminds us that even the things we think are “wrong” […]

Two Tips for Two Thousand Decisions

Psychology Today suggests that we make about two thousand decisions an hour. Can you imagine if you prayed over every decision during the day. Your prayer life would be Ah-mazing…and you could blame God for any mistakes along the way. Woot! The reality is that we don’t pray about each one of those two thousand […]

A Good Person

“Why do you call me good?” Jesus asked. “Only God is truly good.”  – Mark 10:18 By studying Jesus we learn what it means to be Christian. After all, Webster’s dictionary defines Christian as “one who professes belief in the teachings of Jesus Christ.”  So how can we be Christian if we don’t know what Jesus […]